Right. So the post I wrote on singleness over the weekend has prompted a couple of follow up points (from the discussion in the comments).
Here are two extra ideas. And they’re for the guys (mostly).
There was a comment that attempted to point out that while the point of my post was that you shouldn’t necessarily be stressed or impatient, I personally had made significant life changes in order to pursue a girl.
I’m not suggesting for a minute that guys should not pursue girls. I’m not suggesting you sit on your backside and wait for a girl to fall into your lap (though that quite literally worked for someone I know). It’s like prayer – no reformed Christian that I know prays about something and does nothing – you pray and act accordingly. It’s the same concept.
So, two points.
1. If you’re a guy and you want a specific girl – pursue her (until she either says yes when you ask her out) or makes it clear she’s not interested (though my theory is you get three strikes – because you want to be sure).
2. If you just want a girl in general, then don’t be desperate. Desperation is a turn off. For either gender. In my opinion. You’re better off being patient and content.
This time I can’t claim to have received that advice from my wise old grandfather.
Totally agree with you.
Especially the three strikes rule – worked for me!
See that everybody – Amy agreed with me. So I must be right. We don’t agree on much. This is cause for some form of celebration.
Today is a day for lotto tickets and games of chance.
I know. I surprised myself.
:) sorry Nathan- my post was unfair and a low blow. The post just made you sound like a guru and you know how much I like gurus :D And in a way this post was what I was trying to get u to say- And I liked what Ali said about looking like an PAM (potential axe murderer) (does facebook stalking count here too.)
Isn’t facebook all about stalking, when you think about it?
True true… but you know what I mean
Yes, there is a big difference between persistent (read: romantic) and obsessive (read: scary).