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Being Human — Chapter Six — A world of (im)pure imagey-nations

This is an adaptation of the sixth talk from a 2022 sermon series — you can listen to it as a podcast here, or watch it on video. It’s not unhelpful to think of this series as a ‘book’ preached chapter by chapter. And, a note — there are lots of pull quotes from various sources in these posts that were presented as slides in the sermons, but not read out in the recordings.

How does this image make you feel? Is your stomach rumbling?

What about this one? Are you salivating just a little?

And what about this one — can you imagine sitting in this lounge room?

How about this kitchen? How does it make you feel about your house?

It’s interesting — isn’t it — the way images work in our minds to create desires.

I could have shown you images of beautiful people — but I’m trying to keep things PG and these pictures of food came from the #foodporn and #houseporn hashtags on Instagram.

It’s not just Instagram that stokes our desire for food or furniture — you can have your senses tantalised on MasterChef, or My Kitchen Rules — and you can cultivate dissatisfaction with your kitchen appliances on The Block.

The Block had extra drama in 2022, with a couple bailing after one episode; because it wasn’t on-brand for them — it didn’t mesh with their image; Elle Ferguson’s in the image business… she’s a world-famous Instagram influencer. Being an influencer is a desirable new career path; the ABC is even reporting on children becoming professional influencers — and how powerful these influencers are.

It’s a tricky life. Aussie academic, Nina Willment, says influencers live with the constant threat of not being seen; if they don’t keep making content they might be punished by the machine overlords — the algorithm.

“The threat of invisibility is a constant source of insecurity for influencers, who are under constant pressure to feed platforms with content. If they don’t, they may be ‘punished’ by the algorithm – having posts hidden or displayed lower down on search results.”

Nina Willment, The Dark Side of Content Creation

But it’s not just influencers who reduce themselves to images and perform for a machine-like audience; in the age of expressive individualism, Instagram’s on hand inviting you to express yourself with the tools they provide.

Image making is part of being human; it’s what God does, and it’s part of images made in the image of an image maker (Genesis 1:27).

The catch is, when we live as images in a world where we have cut ourselves off from God — where we’re “buffered” — we’re not sure what image it is we’re meant to be like, and so we often end up choosing other people… And often it’s not just our parents, in our visual culture it’s celebrities — or, increasingly, influencers.

Christopher Hedges wrote the book Empire of Illusion, about life in a world dominated by images that are produced to manipulate us and keep us playing along with the image makers; the celebrity-making machines, and he says when we turn to celebrities — or influencers — as idealised forms of ourselves, it ends up impacting us; instead of being fully real, or fully self-actualised, we’re never sure who we are.

“Celebrities are portrayed as idealized forms of ourselves. It is we, in perverse irony, who are never fully actualised, never fully real in a celebrity culture.”

Christopher Hedges, Empire of Illusion

Maybe we’re not buffered selves, but buffering — always trying to become who we are more fully, but never quite finished and ready to go.

With the sheer volume of evolving images how could we feel whole? We’re perpetually looking for the next image — whether that’s a meal, a house design, a holiday, a relationship, or some visionary version of ourselves.

In an article updating the argument in his book after Donald Trump’s election — Hedges says we’re worshippers of the electronic image — our modern-day idols shape our fantasies; our hearts and our lives. Even our interactions with others are shaped by all sorts of pixelated pictures, whether that’s through interacting on screens; or spending our time seeing people’s bodies in pixelated form.

“Electronic images are our modern-day idols. We worship the power and fame they impart. We yearn to become idolised celebrities. We measure our lives against the fantasies these images disseminate.”

Hedges, Worshipping the Electronic Image

Hedges reckons Donald Trump’s reality TV instincts made him a perfect politician for the digital image world — he’s mastered the cultivation of political images — we saw this in this image during a series of FBI raids.

Bizarrely Trump seems to be the embodiment of all the vices from Colossians (Colossians 3:5), but his image-making machine controls the Republicans, and about 80% of people who identify as evangelical Christians in the US — and we might feel a world away, but consider how much of the imagery in our culture and on our screens is pumped out from the US…

Trump’s image-making is catching — those following his playbook can look like images in a live action role playing game, or like they’re playing multiple characters at once.

This isn’t new; we’ve always been shaped by images — once it was stained glass windows, and paintings that told the story about an enchanted cosmos, what’s new is the medium; and it’s much cheaper to make a digital photo than a stained glass window; today our icons are the pictures flashing across our screens.

“In the Middle Ages, stained glass windows and vivid paintings of religious torment and salvation controlled and influenced social behavior. Today we are ruled by icons of gross riches and physical beauty that blare and flash from television, cinema, and computer screens.”

Hedges, Empire of Illusion

And it’s not just foodporn, obviously — porn itself is embedded in our culture and our imaginations — our image making. Both as an image maker and in the way its norms flow into the way human bodies are presented in advertising and entertainment.

Hedges is a lapsed Presbyterian minister who became an award-winning war correspondent — his book has a whole chapter on porn — and it’s like he’s covering a war; it has way too much information to be comfortable reading — he reckons porn both shapes and mirrors the violence, cruelty and degradation in our society the same way war can; and that porn is producing a loss of empathy by reducing human beings — and human bodies — to being commodities.

“The violence, cruelty, and degradation of porn are expressions of a society that has lost the capacity for empathy… It is about reducing other human beings to commodities, to objects.”

Hedges, Empire of Illusion

He suggests porn is part of a society that kills both the sacred and the human, replacing empathy and human desire — eros — and compassion with power, control, force and pain — and the idea that we are gods, and others will literally bend to our fantasies…

“It extinguishes the sacred and the human to worship power, control, force, and pain. It replaces empathy, eros, and compassion with the illusion that we are gods… Porn is the glittering façade… of a culture seduced by death.”

Hedges, Empire of Illusion

And we’re seeing the costs of this society in our society — in our schools even — I read this news story about how young boys raised on porn are sexually assaulting their classmates in record numbers.

Melinda Tankard Reist from Collective Shout wrote about the impact of porn not just in assault, but in the expectations placed on teen girls in dating relationships a few years ago where she said the culture, for teens shaped by porn, is that sexual conquest and domination are untempered by the bounds of respect, intimacy, and authentic human connection — that young people are learning cruelty and humiliation not intimacy and love — this is what happens when we’re just bodies ruled by desire, or see each other just as pixelated images in the flesh, where our desires have been shaped by dehumanising images.

“Sexual conquest and domination are untempered by the bounds of respect, intimacy and authentic human connection. Young people are not learning about intimacy, friendship and love, but about cruelty and humiliation.”

Melinda Tankard Reist

The culture we live in that commodifies people by turning them into images isn’t just happening in Instagram, or porn, it’s shaping dating — our relationships are increasingly mediated by digital images. One third of all new romantic relationships now begin online, it’s the most common way people get together.

And platforms like OkCupid — who promise dating for every single person — that’s clever — and who can even cater for niches like “people who like kissing while sitting in pie.”

Success on these sites requires cultivating an image that’ll make you attractive to others. And pictures create heaps more interaction than words; they have run studies.

David Brooks — who writes for the New York Timeswrote an article about online dating in 2003, celebrating how it was reintroducing a formal structure and ritual to dating, which he thought had been lost:

“Online dating puts structure back into courtship. For generations Americans had certain courtship rituals.”

David Brooks, Love: Internet Style, New York Times, 2003

He reckoned these platforms were all about love…

“But love is what this is all about. And the heart, even in this commercial age, finds a way.”

Brooks, 2003

In 2015 he wrote another piece — and he had changed his tune — he noticed something about the way these platforms worked — when we go to an online dating site on the same browser they use for their online shopping, we inevitably bring the same mindset — we shop for human beings. He says these platforms commodify people particularly by reducing people to a picture.

“People who date online are not shallower or vainer than those who don’t… It’s just that they’re in a specific mental state. They’re shopping for human beings, commodifying people.”

David Brooks, ‘The Devotion Leap,’ New York Times, 2015

And this process is more or less the opposite of love.

“Online dating is fascinating because it is more or less the opposite of its object: love.”

Brooks, 2015

Things have become more complex since 2015 — dating sites like OkCupid have lost market share to apps focused on instant gratification and immediate availability; where even the rituals of the old web dating have been deconstructed with a swipe of the finger, and where image is everything.

Photography itself is interesting — it has rapidly evolved as part of everyday life since the mechanisation of camera production in the 70s; before then most people didn’t spend time taking photos; even then cameras had built-in limits — like film — but the jump from mechanical to digital means we now have a seemingly unlimited capacity to capture every moment — and then see everything on our screens.

Susan Sontag wrote a famous essay ‘On Photography‘ in the 70s where she was worried then that to capture and shoot images was an act of aggression — think of the words “capture” and “shoot.”

“There is an aggression implicit in every use of the camera.”

Susan Sontag, On Photography

Photographers, she says, are “always imposing standards on their subjects,” and objectifying them.

She saw the need — once families had cameras — to capture every moment as an addictive aesthetic consumerism.

“Needing to have reality confirmed and experience enhanced by photographs is an aesthetic consumerism to which everyone is now addicted.”

Sontag, On Photography

She suggests industrial societies turn their citizens into image junkies, and this bombardment of imagery becomes an irresistible form of mental pollution.

“Industrial societies turn their citizens into image-junkies; it is the most irresistible form of mental pollution.”

Sontag, On Photography

This was before the smartphone. Imagine how she would feel about the digital society…

Have you thought about it this way? The idea that images are polluting our brains, and shaping our desires, and reshaping our bodies — but we’re bombarded with images and these images shape our desires and produce reactions in our bodies; and we’re being discipled by our digital society — even by algorithms — to interact with images and present ourselves as images… and normally as images that keep making people more money, by stoking more desires and selling us the answer.

God made us as image bearers to see… to imagine… and to make images.

God made beauty.

He made fruit that was pleasing to the eye and good for food (Genesis 2:9); but this visualising — our capacity to imagine — either leads us to or away from God. “Pleasing to the eye” and “good for food” is how Eve sees the fruit she’s been told is not good to eat too (Genesis 3:6). Then this pattern of seeing and desiring and being led to destructive sin repeats — it’s the same story with the Nephilim (Genesis 3:6, 6:2), and with David and Bathsheba (Genesis 3:6, 2 Samuel 11:2-4).

This relationship between sin and desire is also caught up in idolatry — so the Ten Commandments include a command not to make graven images of God (Exodus 20:4-5); and Deuteronomy commands Israel to watch themselves carefully and to avoid making images of living things to worship them (Deuteronomy 4:15-18), because those images will profoundly shape our vision of God and our life in the world.

What do you think Moses would have said about Instagram?

It’s interesting, though, that Israel’s holy spaces — the tabernacle and temple — involve man-made images of trees and fruit (Exodus 25:36); Israel’s eyes and bodies are meant to participate in worship — and making beautiful images of things God made can be part of that — but you won’t find carved images of God; or of animals, or of men or women — images of images of God, because Israel weren’t to worship images; they’re to be images… as soon as we reduce God to an image, or make an image our god, we’re working with a false picture of God; a God who is an image of our making.

This tendency to turn images into gods is pretty ingrained — Ezekiel talks about idols being set up in our hearts; the seat of our desires and loves (Ezekiel 14:4-5)… That’s where images go… Isaiah re-tells an idol making session with someone cooking food over one half of a chunk of wood, then carving an image of a god with the other (Isaiah 44:15), and he says something those of us who live with our phones wedged into our hands with our eyes hunched over giving all our attention… “Is not this thing in my right hand a lie?” (Isaiah 44:20).

Are not these images that bombard me, and keep me looking down, and that shape my desires — aren’t they built on the same lies; the same call to misplace our desire, that the serpent used with Eve… Won’t they leave me always dissatisfied? Humans have always been fixated by images.

The New Testament church lived in an image-saturated world — there were statues of the emperors and the Roman gods everywhere; temples on every hill and corner in a city — they also lived in an age of spectacle that upheld the imagery; the degradation of human bodies in blood sports and sexual immorality — and this presented a major challenge for the early church;

They were pretty serious about Jesus’ commands on lust and the heart, and the idea of your eyes causing you to stumble (Matthew 5:28-29), and about his teaching on the eyes and the heart being linked (Matthew 6:21-22). For them, even attending the Roman spectacles; these games, was seen not simply as renouncing your Christian faith, but as announcing you belonged to the ancient empire of illusion. They wanted to cultivate a way of seeing the world that helped them see God, and so live as his images.

Two Aussie theologians — Ben Myers and Scott Stephens — co-wrote a paper about disciplining our eyes in a visual culture; they reckon we also live in a society of spectacle and one of our great moral challenges is deciding what images to look at.

Christians today live in a society of the spectacle. Our lives are dominated to an unprecedented degree by images and by the moral act of looking at them.

Without minimising the damage that sexual imagery does to us; they suggest all imagery is essentially pornography.

“All images today are pornographic: they arouse—but without danger, obligation, or contamination.”

Myers and Stephens, ‘The Discipline of the Eyes: Reflections on Visual Culture, Ancient and Modern,’ in HTML of Cruciform Love: Towards a Theology of The Internet

We’re so conditioned to objectify and worship — that imagery in ads and in social media streams arouse us without the danger of embodied commitment; without creating obligation, or without the complications that come when we actually use our bodies. And the spectacle shapes us.

And I know that some of us are here and we’re struggling with lust; with addiction to porn, and I’m not wanting to minimise that by saying that most of us are struggling with image addiction, in a machine world where the algorithms are geared towards ruining us by making us consumers — I don’t want to minimise it, but maybe I want to reframe the conversations about porn so that you see it as part of a dehumanising world that has objectified and commodified everything and everyone, where we’re taught that a fulfilled life is one where we satisfy our every longing and desire and that we can do this just with imagery — and maybe I think the rest of us should be confronting our own addictions too…

It’s easy for us to look across the ocean and judge the image-driven life of American politics; but ours is the same. It’s easy for us to throw stones at churches built on image, where that goes wrong — like at Hillsong’s New York campus where the image cultivation machine was operating in overdrive. But what about in our church? How do we go about avoiding the worship of images — whether that’s online, or the way we express ourselves?

This is something I’ve been pretty aware of as someone who lives online in an image-soaked world — I’ve resisted selfies, I don’t post or scroll on Instagram, I do scroll Facebook, and find myself comparing and contrasting to all sorts of people — especially other pastors. The sin of comparison will kill you just like any other. One of the ways I compare myself is that I hate when churches post photos from within a church service, especially of preachers — in a way that just creates a sort of #churchporn. Where are you engaged in image-based comparison? What spectacles can’t you turn your eyes from? What online images are shaping your hearts?

We aren’t going to think our way out of idolatrous practices that shape our desires; our loves; our worship — we actually need a new way of life; a new sort of worship and a new image to pursue.

How do we become worshipping images, where images — even the pictures on the screen — help us worship God rather than conforming our imaginations?

This, I take it, is what Paul is teaching the Colossians to do in their own world of idolatrous spectacle; he starts his letter by introducing Jesus as the image of the invisible God (Colossians 1:15-16). Jesus is the one worthy of our worship, because in him and for him all things on heaven and earth were created; and because he has redeemed us and is reconciling us to God…

And then he calls his readers away from idolatry by calling us to lift our eyes; not focusing on the images we’re inclined to worship; but because we’ve been raised with Jesus and because he’s seated at the right hand of God in heaven, and that’s our future and what should be our desire; we should fix our hearts and minds on things above (Colossians 3:1-2); and this’ll mean cultivating a new way of looking at the world.

Because we’re called to take off the old self — with its practices (Colossians 3:9-10), that’s going to include practices of seeing, as we put on a new self with new practices of seeing and worshipping, so that we’re renewed in the image of its creator — which Paul says back in chapter 1 is not just the Father, but Jesus as well.

We’re to put to death what belongs to our earthly nature (Colossians 3:5-6) — a nature shaped by worshipping earthly stuff — seeing, desiring, and taking — by how we approach sex, lust, desire, and greed — which is idolatry — and I reckon Paul’s saying the stuff that belongs to our earthly nature is idolatry — these are paths to death; to God’s wrath. So kill them.

And take up new life — clothing ourselves with compassion and kindness and humility and gentleness and patience, and forgiveness — seeing others the way God sees them — and ourselves as God sees us — and over all this; love — the virtue that binds them all (Colossians 3:12-14).

When Paul talks about practices in the world — and with others — and these virtues — these practices have to include new ways of looking at the world, and at others — we can’t look at the world, and others, as objects to be consumed — lusted after — desired. That’s deadly idolatry. That’s what porn is; it cultivates death in you — your eyes, your heart, your body are all being aligned to death — but it’s also what any idolatrous image making and image-viewing does for us; instead we should be looking at others and at the things God made in order to learn compassion and kindness and humility — self-denial — gentleness and patience — these are the virtues opposite to pornworld and the age of instant gratification; and when we embrace these new patterns of looking it should transform our community so that we are images who look like Jesus in compelling and truly human ways.

The sort of practices we’re going to need are — like last week — ascetic — cultivating the discipline not to look; to self-deny — and aesthetic — cultivating an ability to look through the goodness and beauty of created things; and to use our desires and our eyes in ways that throw us towards the one in whom all things are made and reconciled.

But we need a third practice; too — one of keeping Jesus — keeping heavenly realities before our eyes, and shaping our hearts — so that as we say no to idolatry and yes to beauty our hearts are being governed by the image we worship; the image of God. This’ll be what stops us being buffered — closed off to God — and buffering — never fully human — we become fully human as we worship God who made us, and are renewed as his image bearers.

In terms of saying no — you might need to do an audit of your image viewing; being confronted with images in an age of spectacle is inevitable, but what can you do to not just turn your eyes, but keep your eyes looking where they should be. What apps do you need to delete? Delete them now. Just say no. What social media platforms or TV shows or games or magazines are cultivating your idolatry? Step back from them until you can step into them as an image bearer captivated by Jesus.

Job has that famous line about making a covenant with his eyes not to look at a woman lustfully (Job 31:1-2) — and there’s an app you might use to fight porn called Covenant Eyes, but if all imagery is pornographic — maybe we all need to make commitments not to look lustfully at sex, or violence, or food, or symbols of wealth, or whatever it is that turns our heart… and the word lustfully here is key; it doesn’t say don’t look at beautiful people or things God made; it’s about our hearts.

Ben Myers and Scott Stephens reckon we need to — in community — cultivate visual disciplines; periods of asceticism — where we put the screens down — as necessary parts of our spiritual life.

“Do Christian communities still believe it is possible to cultivate visual disciplines, and periods of visual asceticism, as necessary parts of the spiritual life? Do we recognize the moral value of providing havens from the dominance of the image, while also nourishing alternative traditions of perception?”

Myers and Stephens

They reckon this sort of discipline is necessary to give our eyes a break.

This is one of the reasons we do so little on social media and the web as a church — there are other reasons, like not wanting to put church forward as an “image” thing to be consumed — but you don’t need your screen. And we need to cultivate other ways of using our eyes; our perception as well.

Myers and Stephens remind us that we can see one another — the faces of living saints — as part of being shaped by images, but also suggest works of art might play a part. In Christian traditions other than ours; like the ones with stained glass storytelling; people’s imaginations were formed — catechised — using pictures; art.

“Do we offer catechesis in the use of holy images, whether these are works of art or the faces of living saints?”

Myers and Stephens

We Protestants tend not to have an aesthetic, or a sense of the place of art and beauty — both making and appreciating it — in our lives as a form of discipline or disciple making; art is a life-giving alternative to the death-taking imagery of porn and advertising…

And here’s where we might cultivate what Alan Noble calls an aesthetic life as a disruptive witness to the world — a life that values and even collects beauty because beautiful things — art, poems, flowers — create an allusionary sense that the world is enchanting, in a world of illusionary images, we need these allusionary images — images that allude to the beauty and character of God as creator.

“What makes a work of art, a poem, or a flower beautiful is the way it suggests more, the way it opens up possibilities, the way it alludes to other things in creation.”

Alan Noble, Disruptive Witness

He reckons this approach to aesthetics resists commodification — recognising beauty and the creatureliness or createdness of people and things reminds us of the creator; and reminds us we’re not just commodities where nothing matters — the world doesn’t just exist for our grasping; but is shot through with meaning that we’re meant to probe, as humans.

“Aesthetics reveals an irreducible universe — a universe that resists our attempts at totalizing and controlling it, that is always just out of grasp, that always offers us a little more meaning.”

Noble

This might even involve how we decorate our homes, and the food we serve on our tables — not just with images from Instagram; where people are trying to cultivate a sense of self through performance, but images that have a more artistic and allusionary quality that pull us towards the enchanted world; it might also involve practising noticing beauty in creation without taking photos at all, connecting with God’s world — and your body — and receiving beauty with thanksgiving.

Paul’s big solution to guide us as we do this is that we let the message of Christ dwell among us richly as we teach and admonish one another — with wisdom — contemplation of God’s world and how to live in it — through creativity; through poetry — through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit — songs we humans create as temples of the Spirit in response to setting our hearts on things above, and through engaging our voices and hearts as we sing to God — with gratitude in our hearts.

And his goal is that whatever we do — whatever images we make or see — as we live as renewed images — whatever we do we’re to do in the name of the Lord, giving thanks to God the Father through him. If you can’t do that when you encounter or create an image, then there’s a good chance it’s an idol (Colossians 3:15-17).

Being Human — Chapter Five — Sense and Sensuality

This is an adaptation of the fifth talk from a 2022 sermon series — you can listen to it as a podcast here, or watch it on video. It’s not unhelpful to think of this series as a ‘book’ preached chapter by chapter. And, a note — there are lots of pull quotes from various sources in these posts that were presented as slides in the sermons, but not read out in the recordings.

I’m going to open this piece with a content warning — we are talking about sex, and mostly in a “heteronormative” way; not at the expense of acknowledging LGBTIQA+ desires and attractions. In fact, I hope to acknowledge these desires and experiences as real and important, while providing an account of the Bible’s view of sex and marriage. I recognise that this will be hard for many of us to sit with, for a whole bunch of reasons — but sex is an unavoidable part of being human; it is our personal origin story (as in, you had parents), and it is part of navigating life in the modern world, whether you are having sex or not — or wanting to, or not.

I am going to kick off this week with a recap of where we have been as we hit the halfway point in this series. We started out asking why the modern Western world seems to be fragmenting us, leaving us overwhelmed while robbing us of a common narrative.

We have seen — following Charles Taylor — how part of that loss involves a shift from life in an enchanted cosmos to a disenchanted universe, and this has left us not as people open to outside forces, like God, but as “buffered selves”: liberated individuals who are finding freedom and identity in expressing our inner self authentically, often using the technology we create to overcome, or even escape, the limits of our bodies.

I know that has been overwhelming — and long — and a lot to take in. But so is modern life — and we need to try to work out what is going on, and how we should live, if we are going to be humans who live lives integrated with God’s design for our humanity.

One of the challenges we face with the loss of one big story is that we are now often living in multiple stories at once, that often compete. We have often incorporated stories about being human into our lives as Christians. So where last week we looked at a desire to escape our bodies using wires, this week we are going to look at how our bodies are wired for desire.

There has been a subtle shaping to our themes. Week by week across the term we are following the shape of our humanity that we find in the story of the Bible, starting with our origin story.

We have moved from the Triune God as creator (Genesis 1:1), to what it means to be made in his image — as individuals and in community (Genesis 1:27), to how we exercise dominion over the world through our creating — our technology (Genesis 1:28), to how we are given bodies, and souls, and the limits of life in time and space as gifts from God (Genesis 2:7–8).

We are working our way through Genesis 1 and 2 — asking what we are made to do — then seeing how sin and curse deform the image we represent, and how Jesus redeems and restores us, and what it looks like to have our future shape life as humans in our present.

Which means, as we step through Genesis — today we are talking about desire and sex:

We are people with bodies equipped with senses, geared towards sensual enjoyment of beautiful and delicious things made by God. Genesis tells us the trees in the garden were “pleasing to the eye” and “good for food” — both statements involve our senses (Genesis 2:9). Part of this picture of senses and goodness and embodied life involves intimacy with other humans — and even sex between humans — a man and wife — united as one flesh (Genesis 2:18, 24).

Our bodies and souls and minds are interconnected in profound ways. Desires are a place where they come together. Our emotions are not just things we think or feel in our brains — they are experienced all over our bodies. You can map desires and emotions on your body using heat maps — and even more:

Feelings and movements light up our bodies the same way; our pleasures and pains feed back into our desires.

The push away from the body is made even stranger when we consider how we learn our desires through our bodies.

In the modern world, where we have replaced God, one of the most natural things to replace God with is our desires. We have created a new social imaginary — a new way to understand being human that makes it impossible to imagine a good life without our bodily desires being fulfilled. Thanks to cultural and technological changes like the pill, and increasingly visual media technology, sexual desires have become one of the primary expressions of sensuality and desire.

This has created a phenomenon asexual author Angela Chen describes as “compulsory sexuality,” where sex becomes a necessary human experience. If you think it is hard to navigate life in the modern world, imagine navigating it as an asexual person — that is the “A” in LGBTIQA+. Asexuals do not experience sexual attraction, and so live in a world built on desires that are foreign to their experience.

Chen says the myth that we have to be sexual to be human is built on two parts — first, a society saturated with sexual imagery:

“The sex myth, which is an extension of compulsory sexuality, has two parts. One is obvious: sex is everywhere and we are saturated in it, from song lyrics to television shows to close-ups of women’s lipsticked mouths eating burgers, meat juice trickling down their throats.”

Angela Chen, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex

And second, the idea that sexual pleasure and sexual desires are ultimate:

“The second part is the belief that ‘sex [is] more special, more significant, a source of greater thrills and more perfect pleasure than any other activity humans engage in.’ No sex means no pleasure, or no ability to enjoy pleasure.”

Angela Chen

It does not take much to jump from that to a view that being who you are sexually — embracing and expressing your desires — is the key to being truly human.

This goes in some increasingly strange places for people who cannot get that desire fulfilled and end up turning to technology.

There is a growing trend where people marry fictional characters and engage with them virtually; and one futurist predicts that within the next twenty years robots are going to be the answer to our sexual desires — maybe even for most people:

“There are millions of people out there who, for various reasons, don’t have anyone to love or anyone who loves them. And for these people, I think robots are going to be the answer.”

David Levy, Love and Sex with Robots

There is a whole industry devoted to developing that technology. And of course there is porn and electronic images — that we will consider more next week.

We find it hard to believe that a person can flourish without expressing our sexual desires, or at least articulating them as core to our personhood. This has produced more complexity — creating an environment where our attempts to articulate our desires and identity involve an ever-expanding vocabulary.

And maybe you are here — and you are over fifty — and even though you have lived through or after the sexual revolution, you are thinking “this is all too much; there are new labels all the time.” I want to suggest this new world is confusing for everyone, which is why there is an ongoing evolution of language and behaviours as people express themselves.

You might be at the point in your life where you also reckon all this stuff about sex is for young people, or for married people, but I want to suggest sex is an embodied desire that Paul uses to talk about how we use our bodies; and you still have bodies — and the role you play in a church community and in your families means it is worth trying to understand what is going on as you guide younger folks in how to steward our bodies and cultivate godly desires.

Like any idolatrous social imaginary, this is damaging — not least because this mythology we live by is typically built around male sexual desire. In a satisfaction-at-all-costs world where “nothing is sacred” about our bodies except autonomy and consent, this has produced what has been called “porn culture,” which is destructive for women — for everyone really — where we are taught women’s bodies exist to satisfy men.

One Christian response to the shifting modern world has been to assume that sexuality is fundamental to our humanity, and to build what has been called “purity culture.” Katelyn Beaty wrote about this for The New York Times in a piece titled ‘How Should Christians Have Sex‘. Purity culture includes the idea that marriage is where desire is satisfied, but particularly that a wife’s job is basically to manage her husband’s uncontrollable urges. As an unmarried woman she has found purity culture dehumanising. She says:

“Rather than emphasize the gift of sex within marriage, purity culture typically led with the shame of having sex outside of it… Young women, who were expected to manage men’s lust as well as their own, fared the worst.”

Katelyn Beaty, New York Times, ‘How Should Christians Have Sex’

But at the same time, she wants to recognise that our bodies are not nothing; and that sex actually involves the coming together of bodies and souls:

“So when a person engages another person sexually, Christians would say, it’s not ‘just’ bodies enacting natural evolutionary urges but also an encounter with another soul. To reassert this truth feels embarrassingly retrograde and precious by today’s standards… I yearn for guidance on how to integrate faith and sexuality in ways that honour more than my own desires in a given moment.”

Beaty

She is after a way to integrate her faith and sexuality in ways that move beyond her desires in any given moment — and that offer more than simply consent and “anything goes” as a way forward. And maybe that is you.

Katherine Angel is an author who has tried to explore a secular way beyond a sexual ethic just based on consent — and consent is important. In her book Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again she argues the issues leaving us cold and unsatisfied are built on inequality in how sex happens in our society, where women have been robbed of agency, and where the focus is on male gratification at all costs:

“Bad sex emerges from gender norms in which women cannot be equal agents of sexual pursuit, and in which men are entitled to gratification at all costs.”

Katherine Angel, Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again

She argues none of us is actually that good at articulating our desires in order to consent to what we want; and that we explore our desires and find fulfilment where there is openness and vulnerability in our pursuit of intimacy and mutuality, because we come to understand our desires as we use our bodies with that sort of connection. This is hard to do for buffered selves:

“The rhetoric of consent too often implies that desire is something that lies in wait, fully formed within us, ready for us to extract. Yet our desires emerge in interaction; we don’t always know what we want; sometimes we discover things we didn’t know we wanted; sometimes we discover what we want only in the doing.”

Angel

I think she is right — not just about sex — but about the way our desires intersect with our humanity and our relationships.

Two thinkers are particularly helpful here. The first is James K. A. Smith, who pushes the idea that we are lovers; that ultimately, we are what we love:

“To be human is to have a heart. You can’t not love. So the question isn’t whether you will love something as ultimate; the question is what you will love as ultimate. And you are what you love.”

James K.A Smith, You Are What You Love

We are not “brains on sticks,” or just meat sacks; we are pulled through the world by our love — our desire — and we cultivate our desires through bodily practices:

“We are not conscious minds or souls ‘housed’ in meaty containers; we are selves who are our bodies; thus the training of desire requires bodily practices…”

Smith

He reframes the idea of eros — one of the Greek words for love, where we get “erotic” — which he argues has been given a bad name in a pornified world:

“Human beings are fundamentally erotic creatures. Unfortunately — and for understandable reasons — the word ‘erotic’ carries a lot of negative connotations in our pornographied culture… In its truest sense, eros signals a desire and attraction that is a good feature of our creaturehood.”

Smith

This has left us ill-equipped to see how our erotic natures — our sensuality — are part of our creatureliness; our bodies. There is a natural response to beauty that is God-given and meant to be God-directed — it is just corrupted by sin.

Sarah Coakley — an Anglican priest and theologian — argues we live in a world shaped by Freud’s beliefs about fulfilling sexual desires being the basic urge at the heart of our humanity, with his idea that God is a projection. She says we have to flip that: it is desire for God that is our most basic need, and we have tried to fulfil that erotic desire with sex and idolatry, but these desires are a clue that tugs at the heart to remind our souls of our need for God:

“It is not that physical ‘sex’ is basic and ‘God’ ephemeral; rather, it is God who is basic, and ‘desire’ the precious clue that ever tugs at the heart, reminding the human soul — however dimly — of its created source.”

Sarah Coakley, God, Sexuality and the Self: An Essay on the Trinity

So here is the working idea for this week: we are made — male and female — in the image of the God who is love; the Triune God is an ecstatic communion of life and love that generates love that overflows into creation. Our desires are not just sexual, but sensual, and our desires are meant to direct us to God.

The way it is “not good” for Adam to be alone (Genesis 2:18) is because this image-bearing is impossible, not because he is a sexual man and needs an outlet, but because we are made as embodied people for intimacy and love who image God by loving in ways that generate life and love — and even more image-bearers. The way Eve is made from his side in order that they might become one is a description of our orientation to love; to unite ourselves in love in ways that generate love, and that can generate life (Genesis 2:22, 24). This was meant to happen in relationship with God. I am not saying that the only way to be human is to have sex and create children; but I am saying that being human means being designed to love in communion with God and others, and that one way such love is expressed is in sex and love in a one-flesh relationship as husband and wife.

This oneness is not just expressed in marriage. Paul is clear it is also expressed in the church, as the body of Jesus. But sin means our desires misfire. We have lost a way of being human because our sin has turned our hearts and desires in on ourselves, so we pursue self-gratification rather than self-giving in our relationships, with our bodies in the driving seat.

Jesus talks about our desires and our hearts when he talks about storing up treasures in heaven (Matthew 6:20–21), and what or who we serve being a matter of our love and devotion. He says we can only really serve one God; one master (Matthew 6:24), which is tricky in a world that has idolised sex and money and made us masters of our own lives. This idea is going to shape how we think about sex and sexuality and the way we fulfil those desires as humans, but also how “treasuring heaven” might play out in not having sex — turning that desire upwards.

Jesus lived an embodied life perfectly shaped by his desire for the kingdom of heaven — and without sex. He talks about eunuchs — and this fruitful way of being fruitfully human without sex or procreation (Matthew 19:12). He says some people are born this way; perhaps born without sexual desires — and there is a massive rabbit hole we could go down around the idea of asexuality that is part of the LGBTIQA acronym — and the way our eros-based society feels like it eradicates the possibility of people who just do not desire sex. Or perhaps he is talking about those who cannot engage in sex — as a result of trauma, or medical procedures, or the nature of their bodies — and if that is you, Jesus sees you, even if our world does not, or if it dehumanises you.

And there are those who are “made eunuchs” by others. In the ancient world eunuchs were people who had been castrated in order to serve royal households — not quite the nuclear royal family; they had key roles at the heart of a kingdom on the basis that they were not able to have sex.

There is an interesting thread where 2 Kings and Isaiah both prophesy that in exile, Babylon will make young Israelites into eunuchs — which, if fruitful life is tied to procreation or the satisfaction of sexual desire, is a pretty big deal (2 Kings 20:18; Isaiah 39:7). There is a good case to be made that Daniel and his friends — chosen as prime physical specimens and handed not to the chief official, but literally to the head of the eunuchs — would have been made eunuchs in order to serve in the king’s household the way they did (Daniel 1:3–4).

Jesus sees a place in the kingdom for those whose bodies have experienced these changes in a world that produces a way of life and a vision for the body different to God’s Edenic vision — whether because of the way a broken world is reflected in non-Edenic bodies, or the politics of the body, or idolatry, or medical treatment for cancer. This is not dismissing the way male and female bodies were created to come together, but we cannot elevate that vision at the expense of those who experience embodied life differently; or those who choose to live like eunuchs — without sex — for the sake of the kingdom of heaven.

This is such a profound passage for modern debates about our bodies, and I am not going to do it justice here. There are people in our community — both gay and straight — who, in order to use their bodies faithfully, are denying their erotic desires for other humans, while redirecting their hearts and bodies towards the kingdom of heaven; towards love for God, in ways that should teach us all about what it looks like to love God ultimately and be shaped by that love in a world built on the belief that sexual fulfilment is ultimate.

Finally, to 1 Corinthians 6. I think Paul has Jesus’ words in view when he writes about how we are to use our bodies and direct our sexual desires, because our bodies are temples of his Spirit and have been redeemed by God to be used for his glory (1 Corinthians 6:19–20). Paul applies this to how we approach sex and marriage, and he will go on to apply it to how we indulge our bodies in eating and in worship.

Paul picks up the Genesis 2 idea that our bodies are made for love and oneness. First, with a metaphor about food — he quotes something someone from Corinth has said justifying using our bodies for whatever desire we see fit (1 Corinthians 6:12–13). Their idea is that if our bodies are meant for food, and food for our body, and it is all going to be destroyed, should we not just eat whatever we want?

This is clearly a metaphor for sexual immorality — literally porneia. Paul says our bodies are not meant for idolatrous sexual desires and behaviours, but for the Lord (1 Corinthians 6:13). What we unite our bodies to matters, because we are already united to God via the Spirit. We are not meant to join God to people not joined to God — or whom we are not united to in marriage — through sex (1 Corinthians 6:15–16). He particularly has temple prostitutes in mind in Corinth, but our approach to sex in the modern world is no less idolatrous.

Some want to see “the two becoming one flesh” in Genesis 2 as about kinship — and “one flesh” language can describe family — but Paul clearly reads Genesis as about a union of bodies created through sex.

What we do with our bodies — what we unite them to — shows who we belong to. This is the New Testament case for marriage being between a male and a female — ideally between other temples of the Holy Spirit. Marriage of male and female bodies is a way to live according to our origin story that tells God’s story of two different kinds of image-bearing people — male and female — being united in love the way Adam and Eve were, but also the way Jesus and the church are, as Paul puts it in Ephesians where he again goes back to Genesis 2 and two becoming one flesh to say this is a picture of Jesus and the church (Ephesians 5:31–32).

How we use our bodies — how we pursue our desires, or do not — reflects our love for God, and God’s love for us. At the same time it teaches us about God’s love. So we should flee sexual immorality because we are sinning against our bodies; we are rewriting our scripts, and our desires, and the story we belong to (1 Corinthians 6:17–18) — when instead we should be honouring God with our bodies. For Paul this shapes how we use our bodies sexually, or do not (1 Corinthians 6:19–20).

He quotes another thing they have written to him about sex and says that married couples should have sex — with each other — to avoid immorality, and as an expression of their union. The way they use their bodies — as husband and wife — should be an expression of mutuality, belonging to each other, giving to one another in love, not just a one-way street. Married people are not our own (1 Corinthians 7:1–4). Notice too, his teaching here is not just about male desire and a wife’s duty to her husband — or just a wife’s consent — it is a dynamic of mutual giving to each other, not taking.

Paul, who is single, then unpacks a little more how being a “eunuch for the kingdom” plays out — he wishes everybody could be single like him; enjoying singleness as a gift from God (1 Corinthians 7:7–8). Imagine a world with compulsory sexuality grappling with this idea — maybe you find it hard to believe singleness is good — better, even.

Paul explains that he wants people to be freed from worldly concerns to set their hearts on God. He says an unmarried man can devote himself to God, while a married man will be concerned about pleasing his wife — rightly, I take it. An unmarried woman can devote herself to God — body and soul — while a married woman is concerned with pleasing her husband — rightly, I take it (1 Corinthians 7:32–34). Paul would love people to be able to give undivided devotion to God (1 Corinthians 7:35). This is life lived for the kingdom of heaven.

He will go on to talk about how Christians approach food and drink in idol temples, not making their bodies one with idols (1 Corinthians 10:20–21), and how they eat the Lord’s Supper in ways driven by sensuality and self-belonging and self-importance, rather than ways that recognise the body of Jesus and the way his death has brought about not only the redemption of our bodies through the forgiveness of our sins, but also the Spirit now dwelling in us (1 Corinthians 11:20–21). Therefore, they should eat differently — in ways that express we belong to each other (1 Corinthians 11:29, 33).

Life in the community of Jesus involves eating together — there is a sensuality in eating together — and this is meant to teach us about God’s love, just like the fruit trees in Eden, and to generate life and love in us so that we live together, with our bodies, as the body of Jesus. We remind ourselves that we are not our own. These practices with our bodies — practices of worship — are meant to shape our loves.

Honouring God with our bodies is not just going to be a result of new thinking, but of new practices that cultivate new desires — new worship — as people whose bodies are now temples of the Spirit; dwelling places of God, who are being transformed into the image of Jesus. This might mean letting the Spirit point our hearts towards heaven.

Here is where Taylor’s idea of a buffered self is interesting. Think of buffers as putting up walls. I reckon every time I consciously engage my body in idolatrous sin in the pursuit of fulfilling my desires, I have to deliberately shut my heart off to God. I have to pretend he is not in the picture, or that he does not care. I cannot serve two masters, and in those moments I am choosing to be the master — or, really, I am being mastered by desire.

We have to embrace being unbuffered; being open and vulnerable towards God — to live in the reality that he lives in us, all the time — and so to involve God as we use our bodies; as we pursue our desires.

Sarah Coakley describes prayerful contemplation as an act of openness — vulnerability — to divine action; where we allow ourselves to cooperate with the promptings of divine desire, trusting the Spirit will intervene for us and in us as we pray:

“Contemplation is an act of willed ‘vulnerability’ to divine action. In it, one cooperates with the promptings of divine desire… The contemplative encounter with divine mystery will include… an often painful submission to other demanding tests of ascetic transformation — through fidelity to divine desire, and thence through fidelity to those whom we love in this world.”

Coakley, God, Sexuality, and the Self

She calls this a submission to a master — to God — where we undertake tests of ascetic transformation (discipline and self-denial); being transformed by letting go of selfish desires and action, and aligning ourselves with God:

“What we discover in the adventure of prayer, in contrast to these other routes, is a gentle but all-consuming Spirit-led ‘procession’ into the glory of the Passion and Resurrection, a royal road to a ‘Fatherhood’… Here, in divinity, then, is a ‘source’ of love unlike any other, giving and receiving and ecstatically deflecting, ever and always.”

Coakley

She is talking about a prayerful practice where we invite the Spirit to lead us into the life and love of God in those moments where our desires might pull us from God. This all sounds mystical and weird until we remember we are temples of the Holy Spirit. Imagine yourself pursuing a desire — sinful or otherwise — and ask how conscious you are of God’s presence; how much you are seeking to honour him in those moments. How willing are you to be led by the Spirit in those moments, and what might it require to open yourself to seeing your body and your desires this way? It feels abstract until you imagine whether this sort of openness to God will lead to more honouring God with our bodies, or less — more love for God, or less.

I think this has implications for how those of us who are married use our bodies in marriage — where honouring God and seeking to teach one another about love in ways that are vulnerable, mutual, and not autonomous is key. We can bring buffered selves to our intimacy — pursuing our own gratification through others — and as a result fail to find intimacy. What might it look like to bring an openness to God and a desire to know him into our intimacy? And what might it look like to direct unfulfilled desires towards God in the same way, taking them to him in vulnerable prayer, trusting that they are God-given with the purpose of being God-directed?

This is the ascetic life of disciplining our desires. But I think we also need a new way of approaching aesthetics — a way of responding to beauty that turns us heavenward before desire kicks in.

There is something in what Paul says in 1 Timothy: when we are confronted with our desires we can respond by forbidding people to pursue desire — as people were in the first century — but Paul’s point is that God makes good things — beautiful things — and he makes good things to be enjoyed on his terms and received with thanksgiving (1 Timothy 4:3).

There is a Christian purity-culture practice that Angela Chen writes about in her book — you might have heard of it — a practice that teaches men struggling with lust to, when they see an attractive woman — or man — “bounce their eyes” straight to the ground:

“Readers are instructed to ‘bounce your eyes’… which means immediately looking away from anyone who might trigger an impure thought. Visual repression starves the sexual appetite, supposedly.”

Chen, Ace

This ends up sexualising all attractive people as much as leering at them. Imagine never being able to make eye contact with another human because you cannot control your heart.

Maybe a better practice is not to bounce our eyes to the earth, but to raise them to the heavens and give thanks to God for beauty that is not ours to possess.

I have loved this idea since I read it in something Alan Noble wrote; he talks about a “double movement” — first acknowledging beauty where we find it, and then opening ourselves to God in that moment, turning to God in thanksgiving in ways that help us to love our neighbours. I have found this helpful in those moments I have managed to live as an unbuffered self, led by God’s Spirit in me, rather than the desires of my flesh:

“Simply put, the double movement is the practice of first acknowledging goodness, beauty, and blessing wherever we encounter them in life, and then turning that goodness outward to glorify God and love our neighbour.”

Alan Noble, Disruptive Witness

Maybe this is what it means to receive good things God has made with thanksgiving and consecrate them through prayer so that our desiring hearts are set on God.